“Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom.”Rumi
Heartbreak has a way of driving us to search for reassurance in the most unlikely places. When the pain is fresh in our heart, we tend to look for hope more urgently, within dark places.
God’s thoughts towards us are kind, loving and caring, his words are comforting, full of redemption and grace. His love is unconditional, that isn’t defined by anxiety or broken promises.
“He heals the brokenhearted, binds up their wounds”Psalm 147:3 KJV
Emotional pain strikes at the core of our being, that can leave one feeling vulnerable in the weakest places.
Whether it’s pain accumulated from childhood or an intimate relationship dissolving, there’s a tendency to shut down, withdraw after the disconnect.
God tells us that his love for us shines bright in the darkness of our struggle. Our inability to deal with a situation gives Him a chance to step in, show us that his strength will lift the weight of all disapointments in life.
“Come to me, all who labor and heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, you will find rest for your souls, for my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”Matthew 11:28-30 KJV”
People refer to the deep hurt that consumes them in the wake of a stressful experience. When they’re asked where it hurts, they immediately point to their chest, a natural reaction, because that is where we feel loved the most.
This is because the heart gives and receives love. When you experience sadness or disappointment, it is natural to feel your heart breaking.
The term heartbroken refers to the heart being pulled apart through grief and sadness, broken into a million pieces. The good and bad news is that none of us are immune to heartbreak unless you’ve been living under a rock, which I know is unrealistic.
You can not hold onto feelings of sadness and disappointment, doing so means to inhibit life flowing through you. It’s like building a dam from piles of rocks in a flowing river front, eventually the force of the water will erode the rocks or find its way through it.
What has happened in the past can’t be changed, however we can move forward, how you choose to move forward from that moment, is the choice that will determine the outcome of your life.
Pain can destroy our self-esteem, it will naturally recede and open our hearts again. Love must flow through us, our core nature is vested in love.
Despite the hatred and evil in the world, love is the most powerful energy, It’s healing ability shows that it is a powerful force in our life
It is difficult to release pain following a traumatic experience, such as divorce or the loss of a loved one. There’s a sense of numbness and emptiness in places we never knew existed. It’s natural to protect ourselves by vowing never to love or be hurt again.
But as you know, the wall we build to protect us, is the same wall that prevents love finding its way back into our life. Ultimately the wall has to come down, if we wish to find the freedom to be ourselves again.
Vulnerability is an essential part of being human, vulnerabilities are the doorways back into peace, joy, and love.
We can hold on to the pain or choose forgiveness, self-compassion, so love flows through us again.
The pain associated with heartbreak is the heart’s shell breaking open so love can flow freely, outwardly.
The more we open our hearts, the more we have access to our natural state of peace, well-being, and ease, no matter what is going on in our life.
How does one let go of the pain?
We Let God transform our heart!!
First, forgive yourself and others who have contributed to the pain. If you need professional guidance, seek God, a trained counselor or therapist who can direct your healing path.
Heartbreak can cause us to feel a wide variety of emotions. The Bible points us to a greater love of understanding.
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; lean not unto your own understanding. In all of your ways acknowledge him, The Lord will direct your path. Walk by faith not by sight.
“Create in me a clean heart, O God and a right spirit in me.”1 John 4:1 ESV
Forgiveness is the entry fee we pay for the freedom to be ourselves once more. If the wall we constructed is our shield of protection, then forgiveness is the doorway to happiness. Forgiveness directs us how to find inner peace, knowing that, we can withstand the trials of life.
Forgiveness is the key to a better life, the freedom to experience the gentleness of love within our heart.
Second, lean into your pain, experience the abundance of love at your own pace. Naturally, what you stow away builds energy, the emotional wounds will consume you.
By drawing on mindfulness, self-compassion, your emotional wounds can be transformed, healed through the grace of God through prayer and scriptures.
Finally, make peace with the part of you that feels anger, fear, sadness or grief. Accept the emotions, instead of pushing them away. Let go and let God do his transformation in you.
Either way, I urge you not to focus on WHY a situation occurred, everything happens for a reason, how you perceive and deal with the pain is the focus.
Pay attention to HOW you heal yourself through the works of the Lord. Pray without ceasing, reclaim your crown / throne by renewing the love in your heart and soul.
Only then will you have the experience into the wholeness of your being, allow the emotional intensity to change you.
After all, pain is not who you are, but something you have experienced. You have the power in the name of Jesus, to rebuke anything you choose through warrior prayer, worship and praise.
Find your happy place, love yourself unconditionally whole heartfelt. There is a reason why your heart is still beating. BUT GOD!!!!!